otad12's Blog

Why do many people think that TRUE friendship is all about materialism? In your own words/opinion, how do YOU actually define a "true" friendship?

My former foster family members would always tell me that this person & that person isn't a true friend towards me because they don't feed me, put clothes on my back, give me a bed to sleep on, etc. & they don't give me material gifts, like a DVD or take me out to the movies, or give me $$. & they would tell me that I'm "stupid" for being friends with a person who doesn't do anything for me.

& when we used to have our disagreements, they would always throw in my face what they did for me or what they gave me. EX: (This never happened, but this is an example scenario) "Yeah, I was the 1 who paid for your high school class ring! I was the 1 who came & rescued you when you got jumped by a gang! & I was the only 1 who came & visited your crazy @$$ when you were sittin' up there in that HOSPITAL! You think your "friend" would've done that for you, huh?" It's sort of like, with their fake morality, they believe that a true friend is a person who "takes care of all your needs".

***So, which is a better relationship? A person who so-claims to take care of you by giving you things, & ridicules & humiliates you, beats you up & abuse you in EVERY way, uses manipulation & control to get whatever they want, & brainwashes you into thinking they should be the #1 favorite person to look up to? Or a person who's just an open ear, gives good feedback & advice, is judgemental, & who don't give you any gifts or "take care of you". Maybe they might give you a b-day present or something.